I actually remember it fairly well.
My dad looked down at me and told me that some people were going to come in. My job was to simply stay quiet and get out of the way.
And then the doorbell rang.
The men with cameras rushed in.
Dad pushed me behind his legs.
I observed as photos were taken and dad talked to the men. I don’t remember what he said. It was all over quite quickly. I guess they got what they wanted.
This was right around my sixth birthday. I was still quite young.
Young enough to not really understand sexual harassment. Old enough to know what happened was wrong.
My parents sued. And won. And the lawsuit stemmed from an inappropriate Christmas Party award. I remember we moved out of state in time to get April Fool’s Jokes.
The timeline of the event above is between a Christmas Party and April Fool’s.
What’s my point?
I learned at a young age that sexual harassment is not okay.
A lesson that many people still need to learn.
This woman came into my office the other day. She works for me and was upset because somebody said something crude to her.
It was inappropriate. And she felt awkward coming to me with it.
I convinced her that everybody should be comfortable at work. Always.
The man who said the inappropriate thing to her does not work for me, so I talked to his boss. His response? Well, the person who said the inappropriate remark is a swinger.
I was like, oh, well that changes nothing.
This discussion is high on the radar. It’s one of the few things this president has done that is good. He tried to make sexual harassment acceptable. We haven’t discussed this so much since Bill Clinton got a blowjob in the Oval Office.
In fact, that’s when I remember all this political correctness stuff becoming what the conservatives hate so much. They targeted a Democrat president for getting a blowjob and using a cigar and we all had to learn about sexual harassment at work.
Now we have a president who has admitted to sexually harassing women and all these other women want to tell their stories.
Just because nobody was really talking about it for 20 years does not mean that it wasn’t happening. We know now.
So why is the media so surprised?
And why do I see comments this week telling the world that Congress may stop hiring women so that sexual harassment is less likely?
This is already a thing. Already exists.
I immediately thought back to a job I had seven years ago. I was interviewing to fill three positions. My boss called me and told me not to hire any women. His words:
Do not hire any women. Men cannot keep their dicks in their pants. That’s the truth.
I said to him, I’ll hire the most qualified candidate. Period.
This guy was terminated several months later for clocking in and then leaving to have an affair. Using work as an alibi.
So let’s talk about
It’s not okay.
Never has been.
But it’s always swept under the rug. People make excuses. People get embarrassed. People can justify anything.
As long as they have the power position.
I sit here hoping that I raised my children well enough to say something. Not to fear. But we never know.
Today we find sexual harassment to be the top story on the news. As if the president or Hollywood or Al Franken or Weinstein or FOX News anchors Louie CK or tomorrow’s headline invented it. We simply lifted the rug. That is all. The president exposed something that’s been swept under the rug for twenty years.
Since grunt started hitting women over the head with a club and dragging them home by their hair.
The answer is to not let this be okay. Let’s bottom line it.
It’s not okay. Deep down we know it never was.
Do not celebrate it.
Do not scapegoat any of it.
Report it immediately.
Access Hollywood reports are an admission of guilt.
Here’s what we need to understand.
It’s not okay to mess with somebody’s life.
It’s not okay to sweep things under the rug.
It’s not okay to use power as a means for entertainment.
It’s not okay.
Our country continues to sweep so much under the rug. For what? To protect those already in power?
This is truly a change in culture. Don’t penalize the victims. Don’t . Because those who think it’s okay will always find a way.
We only have one life. Don’t let anybody abuse it.